Chapter 119
Jiang Yi Yi was sneaked to the island, she was young and did not understand that marriage also need a household registration book, so she did not know that she had to steal the household registration book
She wrote a letter to her family to ask for it, but they were angry with her, saying that they had to go home and finish the wedding before giving the household registration book, and repeatedly declared that she should be clean and self-respecting, but Jiang Yi Yi threw the letter into the sea, and regarded her parents’ words as a whisper
Li Mao naturally do not agree to break up, they are married, break up and divorce is almost the same
“I lied to you, the first time we were in the guesthouse, we didn’t have any relationship at all” Jiang Yi Yi saw that he refused to agree, gritted her teeth and told the truth
Li Mao was stunned, “So, later that time, you said you had your period but it was actually the first time?”
Jiang Yi Yi nodded, “Yes! I lied to you both times It’s me who lied first you don’t need to be responsible”
Li Mao, a big man, couldn’t possibly break up with a girl because she lied twice, besides, no matter which time is true and which time is false, he is her first man, he should be responsible to the end
He only thought that Jiang Yi Yi was talking in anger and coaxed her as usual
But Jiang Yi Yi said she wanted to break up this time Li Mao didn’t find any difference in her attitude, and thought she was like a spoiled child who made a fuss this time, so he got angry and said, “Break up if you want to!” After that, she moved back to the camp
But he didn’t say that he really didn’t care about Jiang Yi Yi, he would still come to coax her from time to time, but Jiang Yi Yi wouldn’t let go Li Mao saw Jiang Yi Yi making a mess this time, and he was a little bit angry, and he wanted to leave her alone for two days before coaxing her
Jiang Yi Yi didn’t tell Li Mao that she had packed her bags and was ready to leave the island and go home
After hearing this, the sisters-in-law all started to coax her, not really coaxing, but more like sharing some experience of those who have been there
The most enthusiastic sister-in-law Li, who has the deepest sense of military marriage, is still the first to speak, “Yi Yi sister-in-law forget it, make an exception today, and call you a nui nui according to our custom To say a few words that you may not want to hear, I envy you!
I’m not sure if you’re a good person, but I’m a good person, and I’m a good person! You don’t have to raise a family, you’re not sick, you’re in good health, and all you think about is love That’s great!
A lifetime is so long, and such pure and hot love only comes once!
Li Mao has a saying that is not right, he said all the sister-in-law are particularly independent can live alone as a family But this must be the merit of all sister-in-laws or at least the vast majority of sister-in-laws who are least willing to be praised
Just like the silkworm breaking through the cocoon and the cicada shedding its shell, this is a merit that has to undergo absolute pain and also tribulation before it can be cultivated, a necessary baptism for being a military wife, and a reward for countless tears after one’s life
In fact, for me, bitter or not bitter are good to say, people can be healthy and alive, than what is strong”
If her family’s Lao Lu were still around, she would be willing to eat all the bitterness in this world’s door
Another sister-in-law nodded, “Yes! Who wasn’t a delicate girl before getting married? Marrying them is like ‘a daughter-in-law for many years has become a wife! I’m not a bad matchmaker, but I’m a good matchmaker In fact, my family’s condition is not bad, matchmaking time than my family’s mouth conditions are quite a lot I was so attracted to him that I felt safe with him, and I’m very proud to have him as my wife When people see him, they say, ‘You’ve found a soldier’s partner! That’s great! He’s so handsome and energetic! I was so happy to hear that! I felt honored It was only after I got married that I realized the price of that honor
If I stayed in my hometown, I had to live with his parents and family Without him in the middle of the door support, suddenly living in a strange family is actually quite tormented His family had many children and no room in the door Later on, when he was qualified to accompany the army, I came with him
I thought it was all right, right? A family of three living together It’s still no use Most of the time he is not in the resident door, where to tell me, ask just can not say I was just a ‘living widow’ for a change
I didn’t know my way around, I couldn’t find a place to buy food, I was too embarrassed to bother the health company when my child got sick in the middle of the night, and I walked alone on the dark road in the middle of the night with my child on my back, crying all the while
Before I got married, I had to ask my mother to accompany me when I got up at night After I got married, I could walk more than ten kilometers by myself
This is all forced out You guys still quarrel for him to accompany you less, can only say really still young!”
“In fact, I think it’s already a blessing that you guys can see each other often I was three months pregnant and he was out on a mission He only came back when the child was almost a year old The first time father and son met, our son was walking!
I stayed at my mother’s house during the door Because at that time we got a license and had not yet had the opportunity to have a wedding bad to go to the in-laws People in the production team know that his situation is special, but no one laughed at me unmarried child On the contrary, many girls envied me!
They said that it was better to be married in the mother-in-law’s house than in the mother-in-law’s house Even if I didn’t earn any work, his allowance would be enough to support me I don’t have to worry about food and drink, I only need to bring up the children, and I don’t have to serve a man They say they would like to find such a man too, that there is little difference between being married and not being married, and that they are free
But what is the purpose of marriage? Is not to become a small family? Who wants to be a widow with children? My mother’s family has brothers and sisters-in-law Even if I contribute to the monthly living expenses and bring up my own children without my mother’s help, my sister-in-law will inevitably still have a problem with it as the days go by
During my pregnancy, I had a fight with my sister-in-law once, and she wanted to go back to her mother’s house My mother scolded me in order to coax her She also said, ‘Go back to your Liu family! Don’t stay in our home to stir up our family &039
Even though I knew that my mother’s heart was not so much just to reassure my sister-in-law, I was still very hurt
That night I hid behind the house and secretly cried for a long time I wanted him to appear in front of me to hug me and take me back to our home
On the surface, I was no different in my mother’s house than I was before I got married But in reality, some details in my life told me that I was just a guest in my mother’s house
For example, during the New Year’s festivals, my parents would bombard me with requests to go to my in-laws’ home, especially after the birth of my child, who had to go on New Year’s Day and on the 15th day of the 8th lunar month
Walking in the village, see acquaintances, from time to time asked me a ‘Why are you still in our production team? You do not go back to your old Liu’s home?
They don’t mean any harm, they just make small talk, but sometimes it sounds really harsh
Pregnant seven months or so, the old man said it was the time when the child hair growth, I casually eat a little something in the stomach on the top, burned to sleep, two or three o’clock in the middle of the night sitting in front of the house to see the moon to feed the mosquitoes, secretly crying I really missed him at that time! I really wanted to!
I went to my mother-in-law’s house because it’s customary in my area not to let my daughter sit at home during the month, saying it’s bad luck for my mother’s family
My in-laws don’t know me very well, but they served me very well, like they were treating an honored guest I can’t say it’s bad, but it’s just that I’m not comfortable However, they said that because my in-laws favored sons over daughters, and I had a son, that’s why I was treated this way
I had a high fever in the middle of the month because of a milk blockage, and in the middle of the night I had to get up and feed my baby even though I was burning up and in pain At one point, I broke down and slapped my child through the swaddling cloth, crying and asking him why he wouldn’t feel sorry for me
I regretted it afterward The baby was innocent He’s so young, he doesn’t know anything at all The baby cried and I cried My mother-in-law, who had a slight cough, said she was afraid of spreading her cold to the child and only brought him food I have a fever, can’t I infect my child?
The most annoying thing is that I have been looking forward to the return of my man, but it would be better if he didn’t come back
Before he came back, there was hope in my heart, and I always thought that if I waited a little longer and stayed up for a while, when he came back, everything would be fine if the three of us were together
The reality is that he had never seen my belly look big, nor had he seen the croaking baby, suddenly more than one year old son, as if I was really a widow with a child remarried
My son acted like he wasn’t his son but mine alone I understood his discomfort at suddenly becoming a father, but it was hard to avoid the loss
In addition, he came back from vacation, we live with the in-laws, usually quite reasonable mother-in-law do not know why suddenly become petty, I say a word is not right she cried with my man complaining as if I bullied her
Time and again in the quarrel, when the little feelings early gone! I’m not going to be able to get a good look at this! In the island is quite good, there are subsidies do not have to look at the face of the in-laws Marriage and life is not just a matter of wood, rice, oil and salt? Just turn a blind eye and get over it”
“Every family has its own problems I am the same, when I gave birth to a child with the army in their unit, he happened to go on a mission, I went to the hospital by myself When I went to the office to find a doctor to do hospitalization, the doctors heard that I came by myself, not even a family member, and looked up at me Really, no exaggeration, a whole office of people look at myself, that sympathetic gaze so far I remember Hearing that my lover is a soldier, the doctors were extraordinarily accommodating, while I was awake, first let me sign the surgical notice Just in case there was no one to sign for me when I went into labor for a cesarean section
I was lucky to give birth on my own When I was crying out in pain, I was pointing at the child’s father’s name and cursing It’s also good that after giving birth he finally rushed to serve a month”
Jiang Yi Yi listened in awe, she really did not know that being a military wife would be so bitter, the last bit of aggression and resentment in her heart also dispersed
Xu Man also listened attentively to this calm and peaceful “spitting contest”
Each sister-in-law spoke in a particularly calm manner, with no tears and no ups and downs in her tone
Song Bo Ying also spoke of her own experience, concluding, “I’m glad I stayed on the island I realized that all of us are the same Otherwise, I’d probably still be a resentful woman back home”
Xu Man realized that most of the sisters-in-law who said this were those in the city or those with better family conditions, and the likes of Wang Lingling and the others didn’t say anything
Xu Man asked curiously, “Sister-in-law Lingling, don’t you have any grievances?”
Wang Lingling scratched her head and smiled nervously, “I’m not educated and I don’t know anything about love affairs I don’t know what kind of love is My parents and the matchmaker said he was good, so I married him We are poor there, food is a problem, can make money is a good man, in or out of the home is not important I don’t think about it as much as my sisters-in-law do Compared with the other young daughters-in-law in the production team, I’m a happy one The child’s father can make money, and he can support a large family by himself It’s only right that I should be a bit tired at home when he’s working so hard I haven’t really thought about what’s wrong or not wrong!”
When you have enough to eat, you want to eat
When you can’t get enough to eat, who has the heart to talk about love
Xu Wen thought, also about because Wang Lingling simple simple so worry less
She thought for a moment and asked those sisters-in-law who had experienced many trials and tribulations, “Sister-in-laws, do you regret? Do you regret marrying them?”
The sister-in-law whose child was one year old before she met her father for the first time spoke up, “No, I don’t regret it! There’s nothing to regret! There are two sides to everything! I’ve lived a hard life with him But you can’t just remember the pain you’ve suffered and forget his good qualities
Our father is a very careful man From the time we met until now, all the quarrels were my one-sided anger He is dumb and can’t talk, but he is especially good to me I like to eat he will remember, occasionally on the way back from the mission, conveniently bring me some back
Once he accompanied a comrade out to see a doctor, back to the bus specially turned to buy me a packet of snacks Spare no expense for me, maybe slightly worse to his kids than other dads, no words for me”
“Right! They all have stupid mouths! But they’re very attentive This one at my house, too, and he’s very good to my mom and dad One time he was on vacation just as my dad got sick, so he stayed in the hospital for two days without saying a word The people in the next bed thought he was a son
He also cleaned up after my dad vomited after drinking too much and I couldn’t smell the odor Everyone in our area who met him praised him as a good son-in-law!”
“My lover is about the exception, he’s not stupid at all, he’s a smooth talker He’s very poor! At first, my parents were a bit reluctant to go on a blind date, thinking that a man like him would be unreliable In fact, he is just a little bit of humor He can talk and get things done, and he coaxed our seven aunts and eight uncles to like him once before the wedding
Now there are quarrels between us, but I really don’t regret it Family members also say that people can’t look at each other, he is very reliable!”
And so it turned from a spitting contest into a praise contest
Xu Man listened attentively
The soldier brother in the mouths of his sisters-in-law, whether good or bad, was different from the mouths of the crowd
In the eyes of ordinary people, all soldiers were hard-blooded and resolute, as if they were made of steel, fearless of injury, sickness, pain and death!
Sister-in-laws in the mouth of the soldiers are flesh and blood, they may be more or less have such and such shortcomings, but more is responsible and responsible No matter how many complaints they have, they are like a lofty mountain that people can rely on
Jiang Yi Yi listened carefully to the words of all the sisters-in-law
Sister-in-law Li finally advised, ”Yiyi, you see that everyone has come this way! If Platoon Leader Li comes back to persuade you, don’t get aggravated with him”
Jiang Yi Yi shook her head, “I’m not being aggressive A twisted melon is not sweet Before today, I felt that I tried my best in our relationship, and even if we split up, it’s still his regret, it’s him who doesn’t know how to cherish it
After listening to all my sisters-in-law today, I realized that I actually didn’t know him well My liking was also superficial
Even if I stay on the island, it won’t do much good to our relationship with Gate for our future, he will hate me more and more, and I will hate myself more and more
I wanted to go home, I wanted to go to school I wanted to think about our relationship after being myself first instead of Li Mao’s Yi Yi
I felt that if I worked hard enough, I could be like Sister-in-Law Xu Wen and love myself before I could love him! If he’s not married by then, we’ll renew our relationship”
“Well said!” Song Boying applauded, “It’s a pity that I’m over thirty! Otherwise I’d learn from you, no, learn from sister-in-law Xu Man! Self-improvement and self-reliance, being strong in myself and not being an accessory to a man!”
Xu Man: “”
Why are you talking about her?
Xu Man was busy waving her hands, “Sister-in-laws, don’t be like this! I really don’t dare to be! I’m afraid that your company commanders, platoon commanders, squad leaders, and the rest of your family will come to my house in the middle of the night and smash the glass, saying that I’ve brought you down! Besides, I’m really not as good as you think!”
She was just a two-timer, counting looking away and lying down
She just wanted to salty fish for a few years and wait for reform and opening up before trying to achieve financial freedom
So she really was just an ordinary person, not great at all and a bit salty
Everyone was amused by Xu Wen
Anyone could see that Xu Wen was saying it seriously, but they all felt that she was being modest
Xu Wen: “”
“Sister-in-law, haven’t there been any disagreements or conflicts between you and Lu Ying door?”
“Sister-in-law, haven’t you ever been wronged or saddened since you met?”
“That’s right! Sister-in-law, everyone has spoken Why don’t you also share your experience of meeting and falling in love with Lu Ying?!”
“There really doesn’t seem to be any conflict!” Xu Wen blinked and reached out to rub the top of Dongsheng’s head, “About because I didn’t have to carry a baby and sit through the months like you guys, and still have such a knowledgeable and warm-hearted son?!”